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My Alabama Shaw Family on My Father’s Side From 1861-2014

My granddaddy taught, another way, in the 20th century, that liquor-drinking men should control the habit and not let it control them

Posted Oct 6, 2016

Annie Shaw-Barnes, Ph.D.
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Hi everyone,

Though I am not encouraging black men to drink liquor, but I like the way Granddaddy had his liquor drinking harvest season drinking habit under control and did not hide anger and hate behind it.

He was a morally upright man and, in fact, so much so, until two of his nosey daughters-in-law researched his adultery history and found that, during his 99 years of life, he courted Bessie, outside marriage, one month, and I believe there are only a few men who match that record and his manhood. In this connection, at his most enjoyable and most drunken moments, he never abused his first wife, who died in childbirth, nor Grand Mama Courtney, his second wife, while drunk or drinking.
Instead, whether he was drunk or sober, he kept strong manhood and never hid evil toward Grand Mama behind liquor. This stalwart liquor-drinking man did not use much of the family money to buy liquor. Though he was my grandfather, I praise him for the man he was. Granddaddy was never a boy in marriage. Instead, he was from day one to the end, an upright husband and father, a real man.

Granddaddy’s life sends a clarion call to all men to control their liquor drinking habit by spending only enough money to buy liquor to satisfy their desire and to be noble men, non-abusive and non-adulterous, even when drinking or drunk.

Granddaddy was the kind of liquor-drinking companion, all women want, if their husband drinks. Yes, they want Men, at all times, and never Boys, they try unsuccessfully to raise up to be Men. In effect, their attempt to raise their husbands to become Men is a disaster because men, regardless, of how little they know, compared to their wives, always say they are right and put in the last word, which is usually defensive and never serves as enhancement.

Hey Girls, marry a man and not a boy, because they are not trainable to your liking, with few examples.

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