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My Alabama Shaw Family on My Father’s Side From 1861-2014

According to Granddaddy, family authority over children should be in the hands of parents

Posted September 1, 2016

Annie Shaw-Barnes, Ph.D.
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Hi everyone,

Granddaddy teaches that parents should know their children’s friends and acquaintances and this includes knowing the personal knowledge and background of their boy and girl friends.

Parents should always be certain about their children’s whereabouts, names, and addresses of their friends, and engage in face-to-face conversations with their children’s friends. Also, chastise their children, if they go places they have not asked permission. Yes, children in 2016, in all families should be taught to ask permission to go certain places and never announce where they plan to go. When the latter occurs, the family is deformed, for the children, instead of the parents, are leading the family. For sure, chastisement should be on the basis of knowledge, which all parents should know about their children and, if your children are “slick,” outslick them, for that is your parental responsibility and keep them under your leadership and they will make good adults who make you proud. And, by the way, never believe a child who says, after you deny them privileges, “You don’t trust me.” That child is never to be trusted and should lovingly be shepherded to the highest degree because the child is a liar and is practicing immorality to their personal detrimental. Fight the good fight and keep your children in the right company and at the right hours with your full knowledge of what they do. In the future, they will love you for it.

Yes, there are “slick” children in America and this kind of parenting requires more monitoring. Parents should be always sober and vigilant, about their children, and, when children do not want you to meet their friends, they are hiding something very wrong, and you should end the relationship, smart, but all of this should start, even before they get friends, and never end. Here is an example of one of my white friends. The family is middle class, and their daughter started seeing a white fellow who were from a lower class, and she and her husband did not seem to be able to punish enough to convince their daughter that the young man did not fit her of their family. Here is what the mother did. She told her friends about her daughter and asked them to join her in giving frequent stand-up parties and walk around and talk especially to the young man who liked her daughter. They did that, until the young man was embarrassed because he could not carry on conversation on their level and, on his own, quit the parent’s daughter. The mission was accomplished. That worked in my friends’ family, but there are other ways to do this. Yes, let’s take one more example. When your children are five years old and older, give parties for your children and invite only children who are raised like your children. If you are working class, teach your children, through parties to like working and upper class fellows and girls, for they are they are the ones they will learn to love. Then, they, especially the daughter, will know marrying down isn’t worth anything, except creative sex, because that is what so many of such guys do, teach her to accomplish things that make her happy and, by all means, remain her best friend and beat the sex urge, which will make her a strong young adult and event full adult.

Best wishes for raising good children who will make you and them happy.

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